Article By: Coach Tesha
I am a mother of two. One in heaven and one here with us. It took me a few years to comfortably speak about my son, who I lost during childbirth. Losing him was the most painful thing I have experienced up to this point in life. I want to speak to mothers who have lost children due to whatever reason. After the loss of my son I literally shutdown. I stopped reaching out to others and I even abruptly ended some friendships that didn’t serve me during this period. But while that happened I was able to gain new relationships that I needed during my time of grief. I was able to look inward and learn more about myself.
Imagine a young mother carrying her first child that she prayed for, waking up to a sharp pain at 3:00 am. At only 5 months pregnant I was unaware of what this could mean. I always heard other women talk about their experience with Braxton hicks contractions and other things relating to pregnancy. But I never imagined being in excruciating pain. This is when I knew something was wrong. I remember waking up to a sharp pain in my abdomen so I got up to use the restroom. After using the restroom I saw blood in the commode and again a sharp pain came and I could not move. So I yelled out for my husband who was still in bed asleep. It was January 1st, 2015 that my life was transformed in all aspects of the word.
A childless mother, I felt as if my very heart was taken from my body. I was walking around heartless. I was numb emotionally and physically. I felt defeated. Some women never get over it; they wallow in depression or suffer from anxiety. I encourage you to get the help that you need whether it is seeking therapy or finding comfort through your spiritual practice. I’ll share with you what helped me during this difficult time.
- Online support group for mothers who lost children
Fast forward to now. It is important for me to care for my whole being as well as teach other women how to do the same. I could have easily become a victim of chronic depression and anxiety due to the trauma that I experienced during childbirth. I believe that we all have the capacity to heal ourselves. The thing is we need the right information to properly apply it to our lives. Don’t be ashamed of your pain but allow it to push you to a greater purpose. Find the resources that you need and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
The pain prompted me to write my first book that goes into more detail about my story. I am currently in the process of finishing my second book as well. The pain also pushed me to get a degree in counseling and become a certified life coach. So again allow the pain to push you to a greater purpose. My goal now is to help others heal holistically. If I can heal so can you!
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