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Avoid Overwhelm & Burnout with These Five Tips

Article Courtesy of  Complicated Masterpiece Blog

It was a typical hectic morning…full of whiny, slow-moving kids, me scrambling to pack halfway decent lunches, and trying to squeeze in some things around the house before heading out. But somehow, this morning, I was overwhelmed by it all – work obligations, pressing client projects, reaching out to references for potential babysitters, creating a mental shortlist of all the calls I had to make and errands I had to run – and not to mention it was my turn to plan a date night. Mentally, I couldn’t get a handle on these tasks.

When I finally had a moment to myself in the car, I was overcome with emotions. Anxiety crept in as I navigated the heavy morning traffic, and I wondered, “How am I going to get all this done?”

It’s so important that we are clear – and realistic – about our daily goals so that we can find balance. Otherwise, we risk becoming confused, unproductive, exhausted, and stressed, which can lead to serious physical complications such as headaches, migraines, sleeplessness – even ulcers and high blood pressure.

Here’s how you can keep tasks in perspective while remaining calm, balanced, and centered.

Pray

Starting the day in prayer sets the tone for the day. There’s something about giving God the first fruits of my time, and just having those “daddy-daughter” moments before my day gets underway. A morning prayer is a wonderful way to focus your time and attention on seeking God’s plan for the day ahead. Whether you need encouragement, peace, strength, or rest, God can meet you in a very real and present way when you come before Him with a humble heart.

Manage Your Expectations

When planning your week, keep your tasks realistic and attainable, even if it’s completing just one thing per day. Remember – Superwoman is dead.

It’s perfectly fine to slow your pace. Avoid the rush by starting out with a goal of completing 3 tasks per week. If you somehow finish more on your list, great. You’ll be ahead of the game! Just be sure to start slow and keep it simple.

Prioritize and Get Organized

There are a few things to consider when prioritizing your list. You just have to put it all in perspective:

  • First, ask yourself, “Does it have to be completed today? Are there serious and immediate consequences if I put this off?” if the answer is yes, that task is a top priority.
  • High priority tasks have slightly negative consequences if not completed immediately.
  • Projects with no penalty are third tier – or medium priority.
  • Low priority assignments can simply be delegated.

Now that you’ve ranked everything on your list, create sub-categories by giving each task a number (A1, A2, A3, etc.). Be careful though…don’t spend too much of your time focusing on things that you can easily delegate.

I use Toodledo to organize, categorize my tasks (e.g., House, Kids, Health, Mom, Sorority, Business, Work, etc.), and set due dates and reminders. It puts everything in order for you, and there’s a web version available. This is just one of hundreds of apps – both free and paid – that can help you prioritize and stay productive. 

Whatever tool you use is totally up to you. If you’re the type that prefers to write things down, a notebook or planner will do the trick, too. 

Set Boundaries

When someone asks for your help, take your time in replying. I try to acknowledge receipt within 24 hours, and answer within 3 days. This gives me time to take a realistic look at my own list and schedule. Be sure to factor in down time (e.g., adequate sleep, QT with hubby, family time, or just catching up on your favorite show or book). Don’t get so caught up in your list that you don’t slow down and JUST BE.

If it just isn’t feasible, let the person know that your schedule won’t allow it. You could even gracefully suggest another deadline.

Minimize Anxiety 

When stress hits you hard, and starts to affect you physically, take a moment to calm your body. Take 10 deep, slow breaths, inhaling through the nose, and exhaling through the mouth. Praying is not only something I start my day with, but at crucial moments throughout the day when I can sense the uneasiness rising. 

Disconnect and Clear Your Mind

My profession mostly requires me to stay connected to people via email and social media. Dealing with a high level of activity day in and day out is a major distraction. The solution here is simple: unplug whenever you can.

If you suffer from insomnia like me, turn off your cell phone at bedtime and keep it on the far side of the room, where you won’t be tempted to check email, social media, or send texts. When I can’t fall back to sleep, and my mind is overwhelmed with tasks and ideas, I do a quick “brain dump” and write my thoughts in a notebook that I keep in my nightstand drawer.

Using these techniques can help bring calm and clarity to your day. You’ll feel emotionally, mentally, and even physically lighter, and better prepared to finish your tasks with ease.

How do you deal with your numerous obligations? Share your tips below.

Hey sis! I’m Dionne…welcome to my crazy lovely world. I’m a wife, mom of two, and creative entrepreneur with more ideas than hours in the day to implement them. 

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Wanna Feel Sexy..? Watch Yourself Naked.

Article Courtesy of Let’s Talk Blog

“Hey pretty girl..”, Tori beckoned at herself while she walked past her bedroom mirror from the shower.

“You are so beautiful 😍”, she said to herself as she dropped the towel and admired her bare self.


“Damn sis! I see you packing ’em curves! Twerk that girl”, she complimented herself as she did a dutty whine.


“Check out your beautiful, glowy skin! And your smile lights up the world! I love you girl! 😘” she exclaimed as she blew her reflection a kiss.


Ever since Tori started watching herself in her birthday suit, she’s been really taking good care of herself.
Her skin care routine has become part of her daily schedule. She buys outfits that accentuate her curves and make her feel sexy and attractive.

This is why you should have a nude moment every morning:

1. Love yourself more
The first step to elevating self love is to see YOU. Your nudity is the outer intimate part of you that reflects how you feel about yourself on the inside. When you love every inch of your body, you feel good and and you’ll have a positive attitude towards yourself.

2. Elevated self confidence
Embracing your spirit’s cover is the first step to building self-confidence.
When you constantly check out your naked body, you start working on making it better and more attractive. You start speaking well and confidently about yourself; dress it appropriately and walk with a spring.

3. Feel attractive and sexy
Attractiveness is a result of a deep personal relationship with your entire outer and inner self.
Sexiness is about presentation. Not to be confused with skimpy or ratchet. It’s about adorning your curves with what makes you comfortable and confident. After all… wouldn’t it be great to receive compliments from your type of suitors? 😉
Nude moments lead you to start dressing your beautiful body appropriately, ensure that it’s always smelling good and looking good in public even when you’re just going to the shop! 😊

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4. Self care
Just like Tori, you start taking care of your skin to ensure that it’s always glowing, start doing those situps or neighbourhood jogs you’ve been postponing 😊.
Speaking well and gently to yourself is an essential part of self care because that will mean no more harsh self criticism or negative talk.

5. Enjoy sex
Oh yes, when you feel attractive, sexy, have self confidence and take good care of yourself you’ll understand your body’s pleasure points.
Self love and high self esteem are the best recipes for great sex.

6. Positive body image towards others
We treat and perceive people based on how we perceive ourselves.
We tend to project how we feel about ourselves onto others.
When we love ourselves, we tend to see the beauty in others and spend most of the time complimenting them.
Besides.. The Bible clearly states.. “Love your neighbor as you love thyself.”

So girl… Get your nude moment on! It’s part of self care! 😊

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